Tonight is Christmas Eve and that’s when we over here, in Germany, celebrate and open our gifts.
So now is your time to celebrate – whatever you want to do, just do it now.
Most countries celebrate tomorrow, so use tonight, take your time, relax, breathe, recharge – do whatever makes you feel comfortable and maybe you want to give yourself a gift: be kind to yourself in the days that follow Christmas.
Maybe you want to relax even more after Christmas.
Merry Christmas! Joyeux Noel! Frohe Weihnachten! Feliz Navidad! God Jul!
Only two more days ’til Christmas – so choose now to visualize your Christmas, your personal one.
There are no limits – just see yourself, in a relaxed state, enjoying everything.
Your family, the conversations, even the little rows, enjoy every part like you’d enjoy fantastic theatre. Because that’s what most of the drama is: people playing roles, doing things like they always did without questioning.
Notice what happens when you observe it.
Be part of it, be part of your family – and observe at the same time.
See the scene, visualize how you enjoy this Christmas, see yourself unwrapping beautiful gifts, enjoy the meals with family and friends (if possible) or having me-time to relax.
Step into the scene and feel it – you’re connected, you feel wonderful and you enjoy every minute. Feel it in your body.
Do this for short moments during the day – and your Christmas will be the best ever.
From this day on the days are getting longer, the light is coming back.
It’s a very old celebration today – celebrating the light.
It made me think how we love the light and don’t want to see the darkness, the dark side.
They are brother and sister, dark and light. They are dancing like Yin and Yang.
So this is the day to look at the darker things in life and embrace them. Then embrace the light, too.
Look at things you think of as bad, wrong and so on. Ask yourself: what did this bring me? Where would I be without this experience? Is there a gift in the darkness, the shadow?
Acknowledge it, embrace it if you can.
Look at the parts of yourself, the parts you are ashamed of, the ones you put in a dungeon, your shadow – look at them and say hello. Be with one of them and embrace it if you can. Be gentle and kind, don’t force it,
It’s easy to love the light – but you can’t have it, experience it fully without the dark.
Take some time today to meditate and celebrate both.
Only five more days until Christmas Day. A time with family – meaning a joyful day at best and many times it means meeting people you would not meet if they were not family and you could choose.
Because, many times, certain family members push our buttons and trigger us. A certain tone in their voice, a memory from long ago, a reminder – and we are in defence mode or feel hurt and want to lash out. We feel jealous or rejected, just because of this person – that’s what we think.
If you feel triggered it’s never the other person – it’s a part of you, that comes out of a shadow, showing you where you feel still insecure or not safe at all.
I have experienced this in my family many times, from my uncle, who always referred to African or Afro-Americans with the N-word, my aunt who always criticized my style and body, my grandma asking for the 1000th time, when I’d finally bring my boyfriend over, my Mum asking me (when I was over forty) if I really wanted to eat another Christmas cookie, why did I not want to be as slim as I was some years ago and live on a diet, oh, and would I ever get a husband instead of just having sex? And why can you not be like other people and have a normal job, house and children?
You’ll have similar issues I guess – and instead of feeling hurt or angry or on the verge of wanting to slap a family member – think of a situation like that right now and take a time out.
Sit for five minutes, hand on your chest and listen.
Where is this feeling in your body? Is it in your heart area, your belly, in your solar-plexus?
Breathe, slowly, calmly, evenly – one breath at a time and listen.
Stay with the feeling and breathe. It may take a short while, and the feeling will dissolve.
Simply because you listened, because you were sitting with it – hand on your chest and breathing. Instead of pushing it away or going straight into reactive mode. Allowing the feeling, being with it and listening will dissolve it. In a good way.
Until it comes up when you get triggered again, in a different way. This is a process – it takes time, it will only work, if you remind yourself and do it consistently.
P.S. This exercise was inspired by Jamie Catto and his brilliant work, if you want to know more, go to http://www.jamiecatto.com. During the Holiday season his online workshops (go to https://www.jamiecatto.com/shop-1) are free. Have a look and download one or more to help you – not only on Christmas.
Today not only brings us closer to Christmas, it’s also the day to go grocery shopping for the holidays, at least for me. During the pandemic this shopping was even worse, so much tension, stress, you could feel it.
I have no idea what will happen today – so I will spread some joy along the way.
It’s a great way to get into the spirit of this special time of the year, the real spirit – instead of just buying what a clever marketing tells you will make you and your loved ones happy.
Today it’s time to spread the joy and share it.
One simple action is enough:
smile at strangers
play more with you children
take them out to play in nature
write a small letter to your partner with three reasons you love her/him
hug a friend – you don’t need a reason ( I know there’s a pandemic, I trust that you use common sense and respect the rules, wherever you live)
you could write a Xmas-card to a random address and add a 5 Euro/Pound/Dollar note (I took this idea from someone in our kindness group on Facebook)
and there are lots more
Just think about something that would make you smile and then do it for somebody else.
Not only today – watch how you feel, how the joy spreads.
Maybe you can feel it in your body, that warm feeling…