I was writing down ideas and my mind started to kick in, as it usually does, with “no, not realistic” or “how are you going to make this happen, you don’t have XY” – XY being money, knowledge, the right people and so on.
I try to ignore this nagging voice, but that doesn’t help.
So I give this critic, who always shows up, when I am about to create something new, another job.
I tell her that she can go write about the newest fashion shows – about everything she sees, that isn’t perfect. Front row seat and off she goes.
I find that these limiting beliefs that our inner critic is firing off, as soon as we start something fascinating, come from our early childhood.
When we were small children we were creative and powerful and didn’t question what we did – but our parents did.
I remember telling my stories and being told “not to lie”, “you always have your head in the clouds” and “do something useful”.
In my family I was allowed music and writing if it was looking good to the rest of the world.
When you start out on your creative journey, doesn’t matter if its poetry, painting or music, you don’t look good or perfect and your inner artist doesn’t care.
But your inner critic is having a field day.
After years of inner work, I found I have to create, in my case write, no matter what, to be happy and fulfilled.
So I listen to my critic on a good day, sometimes there’s a bit of truth in her voice, and I tell her I know she cares.
On other days, I give her an assignment to keep her busy and out of the way.
How do you deal with your inner critic and his/her voice?