Today I’ll be visiting my parents and that brought up the thought of setting boundaries.
Saying No is one thing, and in addition to that I needed to set up boundaries, not only for my parents, but for my friends and co-workers.
There are days when I need my free time to myself, when I am writing new stuff, when I feel the need to listen, to meditate.
After that I am here for the rest of the world – but no longer at any time.
My last boss overstepped my boundaries every day. We had clear agreements from Day 1 and still I had to remind him every day. It was “can’t you do x now for me instead of your lunch break” or “will you please stay longer today” – not some
times, but almost every day.
At the same time my Dad was very ill and my Mum called many times each day, in the office, at home, I was on “high alert”.
From this constant struggle, that left me exhausted, I learned my lesson.
I took a time-out and changed something.
My Mum learned that at certain times e.g. when I do Satsang, she can’t reach me, because the phone is off, and now she respects it. With parents it’s even more difficult as they get older and need more help, and I am helping as good as I can, just not always.
This makes me feel better, and my family knows they get my full attention, when I am ready.
My creative side gets attention, too and that makes me happy.